As his partner of 25 years, I believed his words, had no reason not to. You should have broken off all contact with him when your husband found out. I am not going to defend myself against anything you have said except for that he is just as much if not more responcible for their marrige ending. I saw that mentioned throughout this thread so felt like pointing it out. A reconciliation in which she shows she does want to fix things 100%, or a divorce in which I am able to protect myself and my kids or a combination of those two.
You overstepped your boundaries by approaching another woman's man in the first place. With Joyce, he felt that they were very compatible and overtime, their feelings for each other grew. I know she saw a text but still. Naturally that text led to questions about how long it had been going on, how far I had gone with her, etc. As painful as it will be for you trust me, I know , until you know the full truth, you will always go back there and wonder. She had told me the separation would help our marriage.
I think because this is at the root of your problems, you may be able to pull it off, if you are both willing to pay the price. Good move on letting his wife know. I continued with my life like nothing ever happened. I imagine the person will die an awful death -- one that I am lucky to have escaped. Otherwise, when it comes to the words coming out of the cheater's mouth, just kissing usually means sex. How will she ever respect you now it you R? If it makes sense, or you have dates on the video files which you can right click the file and check properties to find out when it was created , then maybe you can believe it. The motives for doing this are varied.
They totally deserve every bit of heartache and pain they got coming to them. Be prepared to answer all of her questions. It wasn't an accident or mistake. File a divorce so that way it will not be immoral especially when it comes to god's eyes. This is so cold hearted and just wrong. Edit: I realized it be good to also question exactly what you and what she thinks about your marriage and fidelity.
Adults usually don't just stop at just kissing, especially ones who are professing how much in love they are with each other. It has a non traceable texting feature. Your wife or your husband is traumatised: angry, constantly in tears and maybe even throwing up in the toilet. I totally changed after the news of her seriously wanting the divorce, then sure dropped the affair news on me. Then a year later I went out drinking and hooked up with another guy by having oral sex.
I recommend exporting the sound files to your comp. Since you are not really asking anything and you seem to have addressed your weak points, I would say that you've handled well so far about she discovering your affair on 4. I plan to do it when I am ready in the next couple weeks or so as I get my office plans in place. I feel like my hand is being twisted here now because his wife found out and he's going to move out. But you would want to do it in the form of an apology letter.
So now she does not want to divorce. This way, I can unleash all of these things at the same time and really send the message home that what she did was wrong and to let her deal with all of it at once. I think at a certain age you are looking for a certain adrenaline rush. You should also resist self-blame. I understand your anger toward me urmama, like I said I am not going to defend what your saying. Anyway, I think you should forgive her and move on. Getting a signed confession from her now while she's feeling guilty may aid you later if things fall apart.
We can't help who we fall for, and sometimes we become oblivious to what's morally right and wrong. Your energy at this time needs to and will be focussed completely on your M, and that her messages will be blocked. Stale hmmph as in stale bread, such a term of endearment. I don't believe we owe anybody anything. You made your choice and the consequences are unpleasant. She's desperate and acting out because she knows you're leaving her. My husband is so happy in our marriage, but he knows I'm not.
But once you have given it your all and followed these suggestions, you may not be able to repair the damage that has been done. Do not believe what she tells you at face value until there is some corroborating proof. My immediate thought was that you are very naive. Second step is making sure she accepts that what she did was entirely her decision, and that she's remorseful about making those decisions. Sometimes the painful war-like connection remains indefinitely with nobody actually filing for divorce. I continued the relationship with him because I had feelings for him also. I'm contacting an attorney today to see what I need to do.