Don't let your partner know about your list but if things don''t progress positively site these solid differences to your partner. More on that later… During the 3rd, 4th, 5th and 6th years our relationship was up and down. I really do love her in every other way so my question is, is it practical for me to think she will change her ways or should a jump ship before this thing gets any more serious? It could be that she is upset with him, or that she is simply upset about something else. Get real, get counsel, and work this shit out starting tonight with support so that whatever issues hurts, fears, insecurities get dealth with in mature order. Just explain to her that this is in the case that something happens between you, considering the problems in your relationship. But just because her personality is intolerable to you does not mean that someone else wouldn't love her for it. You're at the helm, navigating like a boss.
It ignores the problem entirely and really seems rather petty and snide. She left 3 years ago and hooked up with a guy that worked for me for the previous 7 years. I didn t do anything wrong and I was still caring after what he did to me. I think this is a very helpful website. I have the same problem right now. A male reader, , writes 25 April 2011 : In my opinion. She thought that the counselor and I were unfairly ganging up on her but in reality it was her common problem of not accepting responsibility for her own actions.
My opinion is give her a fair ultimatum to begin change tonight, and to continue improving daily within reason, or give her a time limit at which point you will leave. Does she even know you feel this way? A male reader, anonymous, writes 14 February 2010 : I was expecting more answers them simpathy, while googling this. It is very strange feeling afterall when your blood glucose goes down: you start shaking like hell, have sort of tube-vision, you don't communicate too much and it is very hard to think. It's a real problem, like you know those times you've seen something fall, like a mug from a counter, and you see it falling but it happens so fast you can't catch it? When we're happy in eachothers arms we can spend moments just looking at eachother, smiling. Attributing any of your girlfriend's emotions to the fact that she has her period dismisses the legitimacy of her feelings.
Here's a truthful secret for you: Sometimes I lash out just to make sure that I do matter -- that I can at least impact someone. She has had a rather shitty family experince in one where she has had to fight. My advice: if she hasn't changed by this point, jump ship. Marriage to these women can be like a slow, long psychological death rather like certain forms of cancer , so why not cut the tumor out? When we get into an emotional argument about these kinds of things and how these things make me feel, she shuts herself down. Maybe she just has an anger management problem.
She either will or wont accept that she needs to work on something for her own happiness, after all if shes not happy with herself dont expect her to be happy with you. Don't make the same mistake I did! This is a very important point. He will then only have himself to blame and can no longer whine, bitch and complain about her nasty, mean spirited, total bitch behavior toward him. Also in my case my wife would insist I was remembering something incorrectly and try to flip it around to point the blame at me. You can't change her, only she can do that.
Skipping ahead to August she began getting extremely cold towards me, pushing me away for seemingly no reason and telling me she was sick of all the lovey dovey shit hmm apparently I was acting like a good bf and that was a problem? She turns every disagreement into a war that she has to win. And I've learned that occasionally, it's best to just leave the room. A female reader, anonymous, writes 21 July 2011 : Stick it out. The key is to ask yourself this, can you accept, live with, and work arround this flaw without killing each other or making each other absolutely misserable. She wants things to go her way. It will all be pre-planned and taken care of, complete with an excel spreadsheet and a marked-off Google calendar outlining the next six months. I appreciate anyone who listened.
I got back and things were good for a while. One can never go back and fix the past but we can control our future. If not, maybe she should give it a try. Your house will smell like protein powder and B-12 tablets from all the supplements she takes and will make you take too. A female reader, anonymous, writes 31 May 2010 : i personally think that you shoudl just dump her. I seriously doubt it after reading these posts.
I felt she appreciated me more now after having not had me and I loved her for realizing this. If you want to stay with her for any reason that's fine but never ever get into marriage and never ever produce an offspring. I have had most of the items on this list, and it feels far more not even mentioned. She lacks the follow-through to go looking for the stuff you actually care about. A male reader, , writes 17 July 2010 : same situation here. She said I have nothing to say, threw some stuff of mine that was in her car out of it, and drove home we spent the night at my house. As soon as something goes wrong she pops out her fangs and bites my head off.
How you used to nibble on her neck, kiss her with passion, look into her eyes. Sometimes when we are asleep at night I feel like I'm sleeping with undercover tasmanian devil. So I tell her I did ask, and that it would be really nice if she told me. Good or bad, right or wrong are only things we assign to situations based on the control, or lack there of, of our emotions. The Solution In Action The following scenario is based on true events: Paul had been dating Jane for six months now. We got together in August and she dumped me in October in what was one of the most awkward relationships ever. Both things aren't good, so hasta la vista! You, on the other hand, are a man who is capable of eating just as much as she can during period week.