I never used any kind of performance-enhancing drug, not even caffeine pills, though I had friends who did use them to stay up all night. Thank You all for sheering your stories. When he confessed his used he also expressed that he was trying to quit or cut down. If he went to rehab, they would scrub him down to everything but cigs and coffee. I have sat with him and expressed all of my feelings to him and he only denies being on any type of drugs he gets highly upset when ever I do mention anything about drugs, the test that I bought was testing for marijuana, opiates and about 3 other things I figured those were the things to look for. If he is an addict they do tend to try to lie about it all and lots of women do fall for all the b.
Your role in this is to cease being so tolerant! I have shared my concerns since t is not legal in our area. But I meant in the moral sense. . He wouldn't be able to care for them while under the influence. And to top it all off he lies and disappears for days, you deserve better.
I have never seen illegal drug use have a postive effect on anybody. Ok, so I am now distracted from my French translation exam. It will affect every aspect of your life. Weed is a gateway drug. She even went and picked up the divorce papers so we can get divorced. I was engaged to an alcoholic for 8 years and finally walked away this year. I guess I always sort of thought that the advice given on this site, as with any advice from one person to another, was intrinsically value biased.
Friends and some family will drop by periodically and spoke to. As you can see from my rather hard-line above, I tend to express myself very forcefully, and realized that I needed to—well—expand myself a little. Another reason to move on would be your internship. I would'nt entertain any thoughts of a reunion until he is a rehab facility or taking the steps. If your boyfriend is struggling with a drug addiction or alcoholism, it is natural to want to help him, although you may not know where to start.
I prefer to not put myself in that dangerous situation, or to set him up to hurt me while driving high and to never forgive himself. Ariel, Your story is very similar to mine. These points can never be over-stressed. Unfortunately you cant change a person. A female reader, , writes 11 August 2010 : I don't think it's wise to trust or be with someone who frequently does crack cocaine.
Now it's to the point that if I try to bring up anything he picks a fight with me and disappears, sometimes for hours sometimes for days. I was working as a live-in nanny at the time and the family I worked for was moving to another country. You are just telling him where you draw the line. If he goes to rehab, be there for him. They never change and you will constantly be living a life of misery wondering when is he going to crumble again. Both styles are compatible with my personal values.
If he does not go, you and the kids must. The biggest change I've noticed is his personality. The fact he lied and that he would do it while we are living together is heart-breaking. Do I feel like I did what I had to do? I am F24 and I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend in about 15 months. He gets so mad sometimes and I never know when it's coming.
Am I ready for another relationship? I am against harder drugs due to family that I have seen suffer form them. My husband has been off and on drugs for 10 years. I feel it is the reason he wont move out of mums place hes 37 and move in with me. When she told me, I felt the same pain and broke down. I just wish there was a simple way to handle things, but there never is. My biggest worries are that either he is going to go to jail, get hurt while doing dangerous activity high, or die. I love him more than anything in the world but I feel like at some point I have to put my foot down and get the respect I deserve.