The essence is before our sexual drive tips us over to erotic thought, a practitioner shall sublime such energy for spiritual use. Before you know it, they may create physical reactions in your body, and that increases their power even more. Desire makes the Kundalini travel downward. But making use of some moderation, like limiting yourself to 2-3 times a week, can go a long way. In my experience, the development of concentration and mindfulness is very helpful in preventing the arising or at least the continuation of unwanted desires.
Like the spirit going to the Big-Dipper seeking immortality! But over many years, i do have a habit. Sitting at a red light. The former belongs to cultured entertainment like present day fashion catwalk and sports cheering team performance while the later belongs to pornography. Yet the universal law of Dhamma is the same. I said, hey — this is a difficult one, what shall I say? I think it all depends on the individual to an extent, I know I was a lot different in terms of sex frequency, energy, etc, when I was 19 than now, when I'm. Not to say my sex drive goes down, it's more that the decision to masturbate has become less compulsive. Stay blessed all of you.
I'm not having a philosophical discussion here. In fact most of the psychologists agree that there are five major phases in sexual development… starting from Oral phase to Genital stage. Regardless of our knowledge that we are the universe subjectively experiencing itself, we are still seeing from our perspective. Should I never walk in Times Square again? Researchers have looked into the value of. Try and see it as it actually is.
You can place your fingers there in sacred touch now. That is the aim of Vipassana. How do we distinct the differences? That is not your experience neither you have been so thoughtful ever except in justifying your sexual urge through statements made by psychologists like Sigmund Freud who postulated that sex drive is not only the mother of procreation but the primary motivational force in social human behaviour. We create our reality based on our focus and intent. So I got to practicing. The innocent territory of developing age is now populated with so much sexual stimuli and information that ideal sexual behaviour is far off from natural.
Loving and getting to intimately know your body through solo sex can be one of the first steps towards accepting and loving yourself as you are. Just my two cents though! And classic Taoist master knew the difference, hence their stand against the arousal of erotic thought during meditation was adamant. Doubters beware: negativity serves no purpose here. We try to take people out from this, we try to help them to come out of passion. Well, If you're a layperson there's no rule against it.
Meditation's proponents insist that you don't even have to sit on a beaded velvet cushion in a cloud of incense to master the craft. I noticed a lot through this process. I don't think you need to be too strict about it. Metta Mike I'd even go so far Mike to say its probably better to not have any fantasy at all, and try and maintain awareness of the physical sensation while trying to develop equanimity towards it. But what does happen is that if I masturbate too much, with or without porn, I feel drained and unmotivated.
Thank you again for your patience and clear points - I'm certainly still working this all out! We are sons of the Divine, out here to do Great stuff. The net is really wide here. If you do masturbate then be careful what your fantasy objects are. Thanks for that, this is kinda what I am trying to get to as I often bounce between the rigidity of too much discipline and not enough discipline. You can shut out distractions and be present while shaving. I tell you this to try to put some perspective on how difficult sexuality can be to understand and how we all approach it in our own ways.
It is essential to have confidence in our bodies—especially women, as they are particularly prone to poor body image and subjected to unattainable beauty standards. For me, it also seems to put a bit of distance between the stress of following the precepts perfectly and being here now. Thus when we are without a partner for longer time we have to face our emotions as there is a greater need for self-sex. Mindfulness practices can be applied to all sorts of activities, especially masturbation, says meditation researcher and teacher Lorin Roche. My observation over the years is that there is a misinterpretation of guidelines between the western and eastern minds with regards to the degree of implementation.
In other words we can promote refraining from sexual activity in order to put time and energy into what has true value without having to make people feel bad about what is already a frustrating enough situation. I tried to control the habit but it keeps coming back. Express the Divine in you. The drivers are powerful — Moments of Bliss. This is what I believe to be the more acutely problematic issue and it is closely related to masturbation but not one and the same. I don't think it is appropriate to vilify it as an activity. We are not separate from the rest of the physics of the universe.