Have we forgotten Abraham who tried to save his own neck by portraying Sarah as only his sister and not also his wife to the Pharaoh of Egypt? I don't know if he feels he is compensating for an overemphasis on husbands being loving or for the true lack of good teaching and practice on what it means to be a man of God much less a husband of God in postmodern culture. All in all, the book is a great advertisement and appears to be very effective in promoting Love and Respect Ministries. These churches have over-sentimentalized marriage and are legalists. This book has very little to say what Christ teaches on the matter how He treated women as equals in a society that did not , and everything to say about Saint Paul's views which, I admit, at times, border on misogynistic. Extensive biblical research would show Dr.
I wanted to burn it when I was done but rather than do that, I just threw it away. When I read this basic statement, a light bulb went off in my head because this is how my husband and I function as people in a relationship. Oh my gosh I remember so well how excited I was when I read this book! A way that works with todays families. When a wife doesn't feel loved, she is likely to act in ways that feel disrespectful. And I gave decades of my life, until I literally had nothing left to give. To arouse her sexually, his focus must not be sexual, if you get what I mean.
You believe — as many women do — that you are a better person than he is and he needs to change. Honestly, I was a little annoyed. Personally this was one of the most relationship altering notions in the entire book. He notes that the idea of a husband unconditionally loving his wife is universally known if not completely obeyed and therefore spends a lot of time unpacking the idea that a wife should unconditionally respect her husband. Notice I said 1 or 2…not 10 or 12. Welcome to the Live Oak Church blog site.
This book is another one on my list that might offend some people out there, specifically women, but in the end speaks truth. When that need is met, he is happy. Eggerichs explains the common ways men and women fail to grasp them. The author takes one scripture verse out of the context of life and the rest of the Bible and makes an entire book out of it. They always tend to lean in one direction. I was a bit taken aback by the constant reminder that men need to be the head of the household, women need to speak less, and the underlying bias in the book that men always deserve respect.
In this section, Eggerichs explores the implication of the created differences between the sexes. My husband was emationally abusive. This is not the Gospel of Christ that comes to set the captives free Luke 4:18. Totally agree- our small group is in the process of breaking up over this book. I think it is also appropriate for couples preparing for marriage.
It's a book that explains the differences in the needs of the husband and the needs of the wife. The essential truth is that if you work through the acronym, you end up at a place where your wife will know that you do honor and cherish her! Any hierarchical role given to him has nothing to do with the abuse. In other words, read the first half of the book or maybe even less and you'll have gleaned every My mother bought this book for my then-fiance and I when we announced our engagement, and both of us read it. How sad for her…plus I betcha she had a mess to clean up!! As long as both my boyfriend and I are seeking to resolve our issues, we can be honest about disagreements and work through them. Unfortunately, the manner in which Dr.
Eggerichs essentially blames women for the majority of all problems in marriage while giving a free pass to men on their sinful nature which is the result of the fall of man from a Christian's perspective. Emerson has done extensive biblical research on his proposed idea of men needing respect and women needing love. After looking past the poor writing, the horribly stereotypical examples, the poor logical construction, the blatantly mis-used scripture references, and the layer of 'extrabiblical' principles he layers in, there might be something to this book. He probably could have cut the illustrations in half though many were helpful. Jesus, Paul, and the other early Christians called for a new and radical view of these relationships.
The best marriage book I've found so far. It would be beneficial if the author spent equal time showing men healthy ways to communicate what they need in order to feel respected and loved. I seem to remember saying things like this a long long time ago, because I thought it was right, I hoped it would work, it appeared to work……. It was the best couples class I have ever been a part of. The authors truly do have wise advice and insight to impart on the different needs of men and women, why it is as it is, and how to operate within a marriage to meet t I appreciated the book - and the message was fantastically necessary and well-stated - but it was well-stated by the end of the third or fourth chapter, and the remainder of the book was actually just restatement and repetition. Say you are my sister, so that I will be treated well for your sake and my life will be spared because of you. This dynamic and life-changing conference is impacting the world, resulting in the healing and restoration of countless relationships.
So many women go out of their way to respect and love their men to the point of being doormats and yet still feel unloved and disrespected, and are then hit on the head with Bible passages to boot. What do you want fo A New York Times best-selling marriage book with more than one million copies sold! A wife feels very unloved when her husband appears mad at her, closes her out and refuses to open up. Emerson Eggerichs makes a very simple proposition; most of the problems between a man and his wife are communication gaps. Galatians 5:22-24 Because there is no law of God against self-control, how could any genuine Scriptural teaching interfere with self-control — your ability to say yes and no? Yes, I desire love, but I desire respect at least as much, possibly more so, and frankly I don't think the two ideas are as separate as this book suggests. Good rebuke of Chelley, Barbara. Our Husbands need to work at Loving us. The abuser believes he is justified in using evil tactics to obtain and maintain that power and control.