My situation is unique and not the norm. The alcohol fuels the problem but underlying he just does not respect you, otherwise he wouldn't be going out and doing this in the first place against you and your baby's needs. Stay strong, I'll be thinking of you xx I'm so sorry your going through this! When he told his father I was pregnant he asked if we were seeing each other. He calls me crazy saying any other man would've left me already bc of all the nagging I do but it's so hard working a minimum wage job taking care of myself and a baby and even him sometimes. Wrong way to go about it. Plus i have to leave when he comes around and he shows up at anytime and she doesnt say a thing about it. Maybe he needs to put a certain amount of his wage into a separate account for baby savings? I love my girlfriend with all my heart and ive been loyal and faithful and am always there for her.
I think you need to ask yourself if the life your living now is what you really want for you and more importantly your baby. She gets mad at every thing I do or that the kids do and that puts the whole house on edge. It's hard but you can do it. No woman can stand to have it on her relationship resume that a dude left her. There's a few issues here, your and bub's safety is paramount so if you ever feel unsafe you do really need to leave even if it's not forever.
But please realise his actions and behaviours are not acceptable. She gets mad at every thing I do or that the kids do and that puts the whole house on edge. Write to her care of the Washington Post, Style Plus, 1150 15th St. Now imagine that same uncertainty as the entire emotional foundation of who you are. Don't let someone walk all over you like this.
If a friend came to you and told you this was their situation, what advice would you give them? But luckily I was never pregnant to him. Stay calm and listen to her. That is advice you will appreciate only if you do it. I agree with everyone else! I know I would if it was the other way around! Ask how you can make her life less stressful so she can enjoy watching her baby girl grow up to a emotionally well grounded adult. Imagine a child growing up to act like you here.
You can do it sending you all my loce and support x. I know that was a whole lot of information just to ask this, but am I being overly sensitive here? Best book I have ever read. Your feelings are hurt now, right? It is normal for single moms and single dads to be forgetful, especially if you have a 2 year old as they are quite fussy and have more energy than their tired parents. Tiffani and Austin stress test their relationship at a survival school, where sparks fly. But, what you described sounded like the completely! And when I complain he gets mad and says I dont love him bc I leave when things get hard and I dont believe in him or I just want him to be my financial slave. He needs to address his drinking and money problems now, as things only get harder when a new baby arrives.
This sounds like the beginning of a classic domestic violence relationship coming from experience sadly and I advise you get out as soon as you can and start rebuilding a life for you and your bubs. Her and the childs father have been for the most part cool and she does help him. The kids were overseas in the first few months of dating but now there back and now the first baby father is constantly around her house even having dinner and she tells me hw cant leave till his son falls asleep. Read Carolyn Hax every day in the Free Press. One of the call signs of a disfunctional relationship is isolation.
The biggest mistake we can make is to just blame the alcohol. When you try and get out he'll say he'll change but he won't. But thank you for your advice, I appreciate it. Does he not want to sleep with me, hang out, be all lovey-dovey like we are? If he isn't prepared to put In the effort to make it right, he is t worth your time. My money isn't to support a man or his drinking habits. Which probably includes professional help.
There are plently of people who are going through similar situations and lots of other ladies that offer excellent advice and support. I told him that hurt my feelings. The baby will be watching and learning, so what will you to be teaching? My children have never known their father growing up and i never had the spare time or energy to date when they were younger. I would be giving your partner the opportunity to seek professional help and fix his drinking and spending habits, but he can do it from a distance and prove to you he is worth it. I have been in this situation before.